How to avoid Fight with your Partner.

Fights between the spouses and couples are very common in every household. And fights should happen. These small fights make your bond more strong with your partner. Fights can be as small as taunting to as big as hurting your partner physically. It depends on how you handle the fight. If you are fighting with your partner that means you care about yourself or your partner and you are trying to explain them. If you stop fighting and be quiet no matter what happens around you that means you are building up anger and hatred in your heart for that person and this creates a communication gap, loss of interest, less value and respect, less love, and less responsibility towards each other which can be very dangerous for your relationship. Whatever is there in your heart, spill it out. But in a good and polite way. And the other person should listen first and understand them before answering their questions. If both start arguing together back to back then this fight will become worse and it may lead to physical abuse, or hurting your partner with a hand or with things around you. This can cause divorce on the spot and death if the person is hurt by something sharp.

How do fights start?

• Fights are very common for a couple and can start at any time, on any day, or at any moment.
• You are sitting with your partner and casually talking about your day or work and something you said might hurt a little to your partner and they may become angry. This can be vice versa too. Most of the time women get angry or sad at small things as we are emotionally very sensitive.
• If you are stressed out throughout the day at the office or with household work, you may feel irritated and frustrated and if you get a little hint to fight with your partner, you will not leave it.
• If your partner doesn’t appreciate you for your work or when you have done something special for them, you may get angry and start taunting them.
• If your partner doesn’t reply to your messages or call you back, you will start to fight saying that you never pick up my calls and you don’t value me anymore.
• After marriage, most of the fights between husband and wife are about in-laws, properties, finance, luxury, kids, spending, shopping, working, and back-biting.
• Your in-laws tell you something and you feel bad about it.
• You remove all that anger on your partner without even realizing that he/she wasn’t involved in that at all and they also feel sad that other people tell you something about your partner and you were not able to tell them back as they are elders than you and you respect them so much.
• Sometimes it’s better to listen with one ear and let it go with another ear.
• If you keep on counting all the taunts and comments you get from other people, your life will feel like hell.

How to avoid a fight?

• Getting angry is normal and it happens to everyone.
• When you are angry, sit down and close your eyes.
• Sit alone in a room without any distractions for a few minutes.
• Tell yourself and your mind that you are calm now.
• Drink some water sip by sip.
• Eat something sweet or your favourite food as this changes your mood instantly.
• If you are angry with your partner, avoid sitting with them or talking to them for a few minutes as this can worsen your anger.
• Go out for a walk in the park or in an open space for fresh air.
• Distract your mind to something else to forget the anger.
• Watch comedy videos or movies for a few minutes to change your mood.
• Play with your children.
• If your partner is already angry with you, bring them their favorite food or a surprise gift to avoid a fight.
• Say sorry whenever you feel you are a little bit wrong. You may feel that you are the one saying sorry always and your partner doesn’t say sorry at all though they are wrong initially. But due to your consistency, after a few months or years, your partner will also start following you.
• Respect is something that should be there in a marriage. If you have respect towards your partner, you will avoid fighting automatically or at least don’t use bad words or hurt them.
• If your partner doesn’t respect you initially, you can wait for a few more months or years. Your consistent behavior, love, and care, will change their perception towards you.

How to stop a fight?

• If your partner is complaining about you or getting angry with you, try to be calm and talk normally.
• If he is saying something wrong about you, you can correct him but don’t shout and talk normally.
• If you keep quiet, the other person will think that you are wrong, and thatswhy you are not defending yourself.
• When your partner starts shouting, you keep quiet and wait till he stops.
• Once they stop you can start explaining.
• If you interfere in between, your partner might become more angry and the fight might become worse.
• If you are not able to tell anything and feeling very depressed, then walk out of the room.
• Give some water to your partner when they are angry. This will change their mood instantly.
• Distract them to other topics.
• Sit down and act like you are listening to them when they are lecturing you.
• Trust me they will lecture and lecture and stop at some point thinking there is no point in arguing with you as you are not speaking.
• If your partner seems to be mentally disturbed due to anger, hug him tightly.
• If you are not wrong, speak confidently with your partner instead of shouting, this will show them that you are not wrong.

Remember, any small or big fights between a couple should never lead to physical abuse, slaps, bad words, or hurting your partner physically. If this happens you are in a very bad relationship and it is not possible to change that person the way you want. Sometimes, these people can also change due to some incidents that happen in their personal lives, but it’s very rare. And some people take so many years to change. Your consistent effort and hope may change a person and their behavior, love, and respect towards you but you have to be very patient till that time.