Role Of Communication In Relationship

Communication is a very strong pillar in every relationship. You need to communicate to solve any problem or to let others know your decision, advise, thinking, logic, and feelings. Especially in marriages, its plays a very important role for both the couples to understand each other better. It’s not like people who cannot speak fail in relationships. They have their own ways to communicate. They communicate with their eyes and actions. By this we understand that communication is not only verbal, its non-verbal, written, and visual too. But it is very important to use these means of communication to express yourself to your partner. Communication doesn’t also mean that you communicate each and everything to your partner or any other person. You should know what to tell and what no to tell. What may hurt another person and what may make him feel better. This is called smart communication. Where your mind and heart know what you are speaking along with keeping in mind that the other person does not feel disrespected or low.

Remember that no one has the power to look into your mind or heart and understand your feelings or thoughts. People understand when we tell them clearly what’s going on inside us. Don’t expect your partner to do everything for you even before you tell him, just like they show in movies and dramas. This is not real life. Thats why it’s very important to understand the difference between reel and real life. The more you expect from others, the more you will get hurt. Trade your expectations for appreciation and look how your whole world changes. I also learned this through experience. Instead of expecting from others, focus on yourself, your career, health, growth, finance, self-respect, and self-love. The more you value and respect yourself; the more others will also start valuing and respecting you. Over confidence and thinking that only you know what’s right and wrong is also not good as this will stop your personal growth. Because you will not listen to other people advise though they are telling correctly because you think you know better than them.

Types of communication: –

Verbal communication are conversations, arguments, speeches, expressing feelings through words, and sharing stories.

Nonverbal communications are communicating through body language like facial expressions, gestures, eye contact, physical touch, silence, and different body postures.

Written communications are when two people communicate through text messages, emails, letters, notes, and diaries.

Visual communications happen when two people communicate through emojis, images, signs, symbols, charts, graphic, drawings, paintings, memes, and social media posts.

Formal communications are Business meetings, official letters, client phone calls, job profiles, Property discussions, etc.

Informal communications are casual chats and calls with your family and friends.

Also remember, your eyes also speak a lot even when you don’t utter a single word. They have that power to communicate all types of conversations like anger, sadness, happy, satisfied, tensed, bored, or confused just by looking into the eyes of the other person. So be careful when you talk or feel about something. You cannot fake it very easily as your eyes will tell the truth. And among all these types of communications, verbal communication or direct oral communication is better between couples instead of written communications and non-verbal communications. Because when you talk directly with the person, you will know his expressions, body language, his state of mind, his interest in the discussion, and how he listens to you.

What is the role of communication in relationship?

1. Builds understanding: – When you tell or explain certain things to your partner, they will understand you. They may not understand that very moment, but they will think about it and slowly understand your point. Because words have power. When a person tells something very important, those words or sentences get stored in your brain and your brain will start reminding you about those words again and gain till you find a correct solution.
2. Resolves many conflicts: – Sitting and discussing problems face to face without any violence has many positive results. 90% of your problems will get solved when two people sit together and talk. But still, many couples don’t do it due to ego. That why, in olden days, all the people of the village used to gather at a particular place to discuss their family and village issues. This is called Panchayat.
3. Strengthens emotional connection: – This is true that when you talk or speak your heart out to your partner, you will feel more relaxed than before. Your problems will be solved, and you will feel more connected to your partner after this. Because instead of ignoring and taunting to your partner after a fight, you chose to speak and solve it.
4. Supports teamwork: – When 2 or more people talk together and exchange ideas, you will have a very clear idea what to do next and what your partner will do. You both become a team and do everything as discussed in a very planned and organized way.
5. Encourages growth: – When both the partners have a very strong communication, they can grow in their personal and professional lives together very easily as they talk and discuss about everything and plan together for the future.
6. Prevents assumptions: – When you ask or tell everything to your partner, you will know what they feel and what they think. So, you will not be left out alone only assuming things or thinking what will happen next.
7. Clarifies doubts: – Most of the doubts will get clarified when you open up to your partner. You may think many negative things about the other person and get many doubts which may be wrong, and you will know it only when you sit and talk together.
8. Builds Trust: – When you tell everything to your partner or tell what you feel, your partner will start trusting you, thinking that you love and respect him a lot, and thats why you are sharing everything with him.
9. Makes your mind relaxed: – This is true that when you speak, all the burden on your heart and mind will go away. You will feel relaxed as now you know all the answers to all the questions and doubts that you had before.
10. Avoids confusion: – When you speak clearly and straight with the other person, most of the things will get cleared in a short time. This will avoid confusions and doubts.

How to have a healthy communication with your partner?

1. Practice active listening when your partner is trying to tell you something even though you don’t like the topic or discussion.
2. Be honest and kind to your partner when you sit for a discussion. People love those who are hones and never lie with their partners.
3. Avoid any type of violence or arguments between speech.
4. Set aside all types of distractions like mobile phones and kids when you are with your partner.
5. Check your body language while you are speaking. It should not be like your superior to your partner.
6. Sit in a normal way when you are with your partner. Don’t make your partner feel low or less respected than you.
7. Clarify doubts when you get them with your partner immediately before it gets too late.
8. Avoid assumptions and convey it to our partner to know the truth.
9. Validate each other when you sit together and speak. This build respect and trust.
10. Don’t speak or interfere in between when your partner is talking. Be patient and wait till you get your turn to speak.
11. Never involve a third person in your communication like your family members or friends. You should involve them only when you two are not getting to any solution and want to seek advice from others.
12. Speak politely with your partner even in tuff situations. This will make them understand how well-mannered and self-respected you are. That you don’t lose your morals and values even in tuff situations and you know how to control your mind and thoughts.

How to handle conflict in a relationship?

1. Stay calm and let your partner cool down. Only then you can start explaining them what is wrong and right.
2. Focus on the problem instead of taunting or complaining.
3. Listen to your partner when they are speaking or even when they are shouting. Don’t tell anything and wait tell they complete their speech. When you don’t speak in between they will give a full lecture and stop at one point. But when you speak in between or question, their lecture will go on and on for hours.
4. Work together for solution instead of taunting and complaining about the problem.
5. Reconnect quickly after conflict by keeping aside your egos. Never let your ego ruin your relationship. It’s ok to bend down a little bit for your partner if you think he is good enough to take care of you and family. Because one day or the other your partner will understand your sacrifices and pain that you suffered. After this, he will start loving and respecting you more than before.
6. Apologies if you were wrong and even when you have not done anything wrong. Because telling sorry to your partner means that you still love him and don’t want to go away from him. Sorry kills the ego and makes your relationship stronger. Your partner will also follow the same after a few months or years by watching you.
7. Tell the pros and the cons both or your partner when you are trying to explain instead of telling only the negative side of your partner. This will make him understand that we all have some faults and no one is perfect, and you are also noticing and appreciating his positive side.
8. Avoid third party members like friends, parents, and relatives in your conflict including children.
9. Take advise from others only when you are not able to find a solution together.
10. One of you should be patient when the other is in anger mood. If both of you cross your limits, it will lead to physical violence and at last divorce.

My Personal Experience

In my whole life, I have seen many families and couples. I observe them every day and learn so many things from them. I do this to make my relationship and marriage better. This is how I understood the role of communication in every relationship. Even with your siblings and parents you have to tell them your thoughts and share how you feel. We actually feel that our parents gave birth to us so they should know what’s going on in our mind and life, our siblings have grown with us, and they should know what we are and how we feel, our husbands love us so much that they should easily understand our feelings and mood swings. But this is not true. You are expecting so much from others, and this will only hurt you and make you feel that all these relationships are fake, and no one cares about anything. If you want to clear a doubt, you have to communicate. If you have a problem, you should communicate, if you are feeling low you have to tell, if you want something you should tell or at least let them know by others.

And sometimes, it’s better to be quiet. If you want to avoid some fights and arguments, you have to be quiet. Continuously taunting the other person will make them feel low. They will think that you don’t love and respect them. That why it’s better to ignore some small negative things about your partner and be silent. You can tell them politely about their bad habits or bad behavior only sometimes when they are in the mood to listen to you. Remember that always taunting, complaining, making your partner feel low, disrespecting them, not taking care of them after a fight, ignoring them, not lifting calls, not responding to messages, sleeping in different rooms after a fight, or continuously pointing out their mistakes, will make your relationship worse and weak. Instead of doing all these, take 1 to 2 hours out from your busy day and sit with your partner for a discussion. Tell each and everything you feel about them and respond very politely when they answer. These discussions will go on for 1 to 2 hours, but you will definitely find a solution or understand your partner much better than before.